Self-truth.

“Don’t believe everything you think.”—Unknown

I like the above quote. It doesn’t say “don’t believe anything you think” or “don’t believe everything others think (or say—particularly about you)”. It emphasizes that care we must take with our own self-talk. We should not think too highly or too little of ourselves. We must disregard our “can’t” attitude and believe in ourselves. We must have confidence in our capabilities and awareness of our abilities.

Likewise, we cannot hold limiting and false beliefs. It is not uncommon for our beliefs to persevere in the face of evidence to the contrary. We see it in multiple corners of our increasingly divisive society. We see it in our perceptions of others and in our relationships.

As an educator, I often find my students wanting only the information that will be on the test. I would prefer, from time to time, that they would challenge the ideas I am presenting. I want them to question the status quo. I want them to challenge their personal belief—as well as my own. (I grow, myself, when my students question my established beliefs.) I like to tell them that “I thought I was wrong once, but I was mistaken.” (Yes, that is what it is like to sit through one of my classes!)

A former student recently shared a graphic about “expertise” (below). I don’t like the term, “expert”, because I personally feel the more I learn the less I realize that I know—the less “expert” I become.

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I have confidence in what I know, but less confidence in what I think. My world keeps growing. I keep adjusting how I interact with the world. I hear people say to think outside the box, but I am learning to question the presence of a box. I believe there is universal Truth, but I know I have not arrived at this level of knowledge. (I trust few have.)

There is a choice: keep growing in knowledge and understanding—pursue Truth—or become increasing dogmatic in beliefs that are undoubtedly limited. The choice seems simple, but we don’t always make the right choice. One can choose to grow, or one can choose to not.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

5×5 update.

A couple of months ago, I finally convinced my wife to try lifting heavy. It only took me 15 years, but I convinced her. For the unfamiliar, the 5×5 program (specifically, StrongLifts 5×5–https://stronglifts.com/5×5/#gref) is a three day per week training program that is about as basic as they go. It essentially consists of two workouts that are alternated (thus, performed three times in a two-week cycle). These are: Workout A—squat, bench press, and barbell row; and Workout B—squat, overhead press, and deadlift. These, one will note, are what I refer to the “basic 5” exercises. Each is prescribed as five working sets of 5 repetitions. (StrongLifts suggest 1×5—after warmup sets—for the deadlift, but, for the beginner, I like to maintain the 5×5 schema until the weights significantly increase to the point where recoverability is challenged.)

For true beginners, it is recommended to start with minimal weights (squat, bench press, and overhead press: 45 lb/empty Olympic bar; deadlift: 95 lb; and barbell row: 65 lb) and add 5 lb (10 lb for the deadlift) after the prescribed five sets of five repetitions can be completed. Initially, this will be rather rapid and might slow as the weights progress.

The morning I am writing this post, my wife proudly shared that in this day’s workout, she squatted 95 lb., bench pressed 70 lb, and did 80 lbs on the barbell row. She is cautious in her progression, but this is more than she has probably ever lifted in her life. She had been told by a doctor to not squat, because she has no menisci in her knee. She has overcome this poor advice and is experiencing no pain as a result of the training—other than the occasional muscle soreness. She reported: “It has been amazing how I can tell the difference. I quickly get up the high incline sidewalks and feel the difference in so many ways.” I joke to her that her 8# dumbbells are rusting in the garage.

Never lifted heavy weights before? Afraid of barbells and free-weights? You are undoubtedly stalled in your progress. Give the 5×5 a try. Start where you are able and progress from there.

If you have lifted these exercises before. StrongLifts recommends starting at 50% of your known or estimated one-repetition maximum. Start where it seems too light, emphasize full range of motion and proper technique, and progress from there. No matter your age, you can get stronger—and in the process leaner and more fit.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

Different.

Sometimes the lyrics to a song say all that I want to say….

I don’t wanna hear anymore, teach me to listen
I don’t wanna see anymore, give me a vision
That you could move this heart, to be set apart
I don’t need to recognize, the man in the mirror
And I don’t wanna trade Your plan, for something familiar
I can’t waste a day, I can’t stay the same

I wanna be different
I wanna be changed
‘Til all of me is gone
And all that remains
Is a fire so bright
The whole world can see
That there’s something different
So come and be different
In me

And I dont wanna spend my life, stuck in a pattern
And I don’t wanna gain this world but lose what matters
And so I’m giving up, everything because

I wanna be different
I wanna be changed
‘Til all of me is gone
And all that remains
Is a fire so bright
The whole world can see
That there’s something different
So come and be different; oh-oh

I know, that I am far, from perfect
But through You, the cross still says, I’m worth it
So take this beating in my heart and
Come and finish what You started
When they see me, let them see You
‘Cause I just wanna be different, ye-ey

I wanna be different
I wanna be changed
‘Til all of me is gone
And all that remains
Oh is a fire so bright
The whole world can see
That there’s something different
So come and be different
I just wanna be different
So could You be different
In me

Songwriters: Micah Tyler Begnaud, Kyle Lee

Be your best today; be better tomorrow. (Be different.)

Carpe momento!

(Un)comfortable.

“Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.”—James 1:27 (NIV)

For church—that is, “religion”—to have any significance to me, this has to be the message that is preached. I have shared many times, but: church should “disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed”. James 1:27 is a mark that I constantly miss.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

Identity.

I believe we carry three identities. Only one of them is our true self.

Self-Identity. For better or worse, we are hearing a lot lately about self-identity. We all have a belief about who and what we are. It is shaped by experience and what others tell us. To some degree—more or less—this self is false.

The Façade. Then there is that self who we think we are supposed to be. This, too, is likely false.

Purpose. Lastly, there is who we are intended to be. This, I believe, is the person who circumstance is revealing. This is the person who Self-Identity believes it is and who the Façade denies.

We live in our Self-Identity which can hold us back or lead us in the wrong direction—or it can pursue our Purpose. It is a choice we make that can leave us stifled by regrets or fulfilled with gratitude.

I write about growth and well-centered fitness not because I am there but because it is where I know I need to go. If ever it might appear that I have my “stuff” together, it is because I don’t. Far from it. I have found that in focusing on a Spiritual, Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Social balance (i.e., “well-centered fitness”) Purpose reveals itself—as do the falsehoods that have shaped my Façade.

We can listen to the voice of the Façade and believe we are someone we are not, or we can listen to the voice of Purpose—of truth—and follow our right path. It is easier to listen to the Façade than to Purpose. It is easier to claim be the victim or to claim our privilege than to admit that our past—for worse or for better—is what has brought us to this very moment. It is no easy thing to accept our past with no regrets, accept responsibility, and move in the direction of Purpose. Instead, we allow the Façade to lead us down a wrong path.

I can’t say I have stayed to Purpose’s path. I can’t say I know who I am intended to be. I can say that I have no regrets. My experiences do not speak to who I think I am. They speak to who I am supposed to be.

Be your best today; be better for others.

Carpe momento!

Food.

Food gets a bad rap. It is blamed for making us fat. It is blamed for making us fat. As a result, many cut it out of their lives rather than learning to coexist with it. Many become overly discriminating against food.

Food is a necessary part of life. We cannot function long without it. So, how do we learn to get along with our food. We do so by taking responsibility for our diets and break the dysfunctional relationship with food.

Junk food. “Junk food” means many things. To the purest “clean-eater”, it is anything that is not whole, i.e., processed, and not organic. To the “keto-dieter”, it is anything with sugar. To most, it is any cheap and tasty. Any prepared food is “processed”, so we have to be careful how label food as processed. Ideally, we are making as much of our diet as possible for scratch—which is extremely difficult in our culture today. When we consider “processed” food we have to strike the balance of considering what goes into our food. If one requires an advanced degree in chemistry to understand the food label, it is probably not the best choice. Sugar is not evil, per se, if it is consumed in moderation and in association with physical activity. “Junk food” should be considered anything that does not contribute to one’s health and nutritional goals. Thus, it should be avoided.

Calories. Our bodies require a certain amount of energy to function. As such, there are three diets: eucaloric (caloric balance); hypocaloric (caloric expenditure is greater than caloric intake); and hypercaloric (caloric intake is greater than caloric expenditure). Accordingly, these are defined by basal metabolic rate (the calories the body needs at rest), the thermogenic effect of food (the energy cost of digesting and absorbing nutrients), and physical activity. It is physical activity that is going to most affect our day-to-day calorie and food consumption. It is not just a calories-in v. calories-out equation that defines our body weight fluctuations. Our body weight (i.e., body composition: fat and lean tissue) is also determined by when and what we eat.

Macros. Macronutrients include carbohydrates, fats, and proteins. The fat v. carbohydrate argument is likely to go on indefinitely. The reality is: we need both. We need both in the proper balance. Protein is essential, too. Protein, however, is probably only a challenge to vegetarians and person on the most restrictive diets. Carbohydrates are essential for high performance. The more active we are the more carbohydrates we require in our macro balance. Fats are critical for numerous physiological functions; however, it is not necessary that we carry excess storage. (It is, however, essential that we store carbohydrates—in the form of glycogen—in the muscle.) Simply, protein should be relatively constant at roughly 0.8-1.0 g per pound of body weight per day. Carbohydrates should be higher on training days and consumed in close association with training times. Other carbs that are consumed throughout the day should have a low glycemic index such that they are digested and absorbed more slowly into the blood stream. Fats can be higher on non-training days (as long as caloric balance is maintained), but should be of good quality. Fats are slow to digest and can help satisfy our hunger—thus, acting to restrict our daily energy consumption. I like to think of fats and carbs as inversely related. Foods should rarely be high in fats and carbs when one is trying to maintain a healthy body composition. This combination is more likely to contribute to increased body fat. High-fat foods can actually help restrict eating (thus caloric intake). High-carbohydrate should be intended to feed muscle cells and should be available for exercise (thus stored in muscle—not fat—or available in the blood during exercise).

Food should be enjoyed. Above all, food should be satisfying. We need not deny ourselves the simple pleasures in life. Diets that do so are unsustainable. The key is moderation and wisdom. Food can be enjoyed and be healthy. Even the less healthy foods that might tempt us can be enjoyed when balanced with and overall healthy diet. Weight management is, for the most part, not about what we eat but about how much we eat. Live life. Enjoy food. Just don’t over-indulge. When you know you are going to eat pleasure foods, reign in the rest of your diet for the day.

It has been said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with (Jim Rohn). If we have a relationship with food, then, perhaps, we are the average of the food we eat. Relationally, our friends and acquaintances fun a spectrum from healthy to unhealthy. If we allow ourselves to be controlled by the toxic people (foods) in our lives, we are going to be miserable. Instead, we want to surround ourselves with people (foods) that make us healthier and support our goals.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

Fleeting moments.

“There is nothing wrong with dedication and goals, but if you focus on yourself, all the lights fade away and you become a fleeting moment in life.”
–Pete Maravich

Having goals and plans is all well and good, but they are useless when there is no sense of purpose greater than self. Without a Spiritual dimension, we are limited and our life is fleeting. Seek to live your life for others and your dedication and goals will have significance.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

I can’t understand.

Music often strikes a chord with me, and songs often become earworms I just can’t shake. Lately, the discord and vitriol in our divisive society brings the Depeche Mode song, “People are People” to mind. Sometimes, I just have to listen to the words….

People are People

People are people so why should it be,
You and I shouldn’t get along?
People are people so why should it be,
You should hate me?

Punching, kicking,
And you’re shouting at me,
I’m relying on your common decency,
So far it hasn’t surfaced,
But I’m sure it exists,
It just takes a while to travel,
From your head to your fist,

I can’t understand,
What makes a man,
Hate another man,
Help me understand,

People are people, so why should it be,
You and I shouldn’t get along?
People are people, so why should it be,
You should hate me?

Song writer: Martin L. Gore

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

Scales.

This morning, my wife went shopping for a scale. Apparently, our perfectly good scale in the bathroom did something to upset her. Personally, I think we might benefit by getting rid of the scale altogether. We really only need it for wrestling season and for Curiosity’s sake.

There are so many types of scales out there ranging in price from cheap to “are you kidding me”. While the basic function of a scale is to provide an accurate measurement of one’s body weight, scale now carry functions like bio-impedance to estimate body fat and hydration levels (assuming you are well-hydrated and need confirmation that the three pounds you lost—or gained—overnight is indeed water weight). Most of these scales, at best, provide only a moderately-accurate estimate of body fat. In most cases, money can be better spent. (If you are really interested in tracking body composition, buy an inexpensive set of skin calipers and learn how to use them. Better yet, just use the information provided by the mirror.)

Daily weighing is ill-advised. It will serve only to frustrate the person being weighed. Select a couple days out of the week and track weight changes over the long term. Day-to-day fluctuations are caused by changes in hydration levels that are more reflective of carbohydrate and salt intake. Daily shifts in body weight are nothing to get excited or panicked about. They are not useful in tracking one’s progress toward a desired body composition.

When tracking weight, look as trends over weeks and months (not days). Compare what you are seeing on the scale with what you are seeing in the mirror. If you are maintaining weight (or even gaining), but you like what you see in the mirror, it might just be muscle mass. One can easily be losing weight and not like what they see in the mirror (losing muscle mass, perhaps?).

My advice? Worry less about the scale and trust the important results for your efforts. Track improvements in muscle strength/endurance and cardiorespiratory fitness. If you can do more work, your exercise program is effective. If body composition is a primary goal, trust what you see. Body weight measured on a scale is just a number without other critical information like physical performance and body composition.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!